Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Alrighty, kids this week? No episode.
[00:00:08] Just been busy.
[00:00:12] We didn't get time to do it. I was tired.
[00:00:18] You know, excuses are like assholes. Everyone's got one and they all stink.
[00:00:33] But yeah, I'll do a quick advice just so you have something.
[00:00:40] It's from artisticsky532. My boyfriend is paralyzed. We've tried getting intimate, but he even cries during sex because of his condition.
[00:00:53] So my boyfriend had an accident almost a year ago and now he's a quadriplegic with a C4 injury. Oh no. He got blown up.
[00:01:02] He has been depressed and suicidal this entire year. Good thing he can't do anything about it because he's fucking paralyzed.
[00:01:10] He can't move anything below his neck and now relies on help for everything.
[00:01:15] His family and I have made sure to take care of him and I haven't left him because I loved him.
[00:01:21] Ever since his accident, we have spent months without sex because of his entry. I thought maybe if we tried getting intimate, I could cheer him up about life.
[00:01:30] He also just wanted to try this as a cope about his condition.
[00:01:35] I investigated about ways we could try intimacy with his spinal cord injury and tried using Viagra and other medicines that that can maybe help my boyfriend.
[00:01:46] Unfortunately, when we tried having sex last week and yesterday, it wasn't a good experience for him. He couldn't hold an erection despite the Viagra and felt frustrated because he couldn't penetrate. He also cried about not being able to feel down there despite his desire of sex. It was really depressing for me to see him crying like a young boy during our attempts, saying things like life was pointless and he couldn't even enjoy sex. I've never seen him like that before. He was fine. It made him makes me so sad that there's nothing I can do to help him in any way.
[00:02:30] Life sucks, then you die. I mean, that's really what it is.
[00:02:41] I mean, get him, get him like a cool chair, you know, he's gonna turn into like one of the.
[00:02:51] Who's it? Like one dude that was always in the chair that was like a super genius.
[00:03:01] But you know, let's see what the comments say. This is an incredibly normal experience for a spinal cord injury patients. My recommendation would be if his spinal cord injury psych psychiatrist specialist can ask for a plan. There are other options beyond Viagra, including pumps and penis rings that they can off and offer advice on it. Okay, Yeah, I mean like if your penis isn't feeling anything, it's like, you know, sometimes it's not even worth it, you know, suck his dick or something.
[00:03:50] You know, maybe like, see if you can get him to come.
[00:03:56] You never know.
[00:04:01] And the next advice from stargirlzxc? My mom doesn't want me having children. You shouldn't want to have children. My mom is in her late 40s and I'm 19. Jesus. Do not do it. I don't plan on having kids anytime soon, but I know it's what I want. Okay, so you're planning for it. That's fine. My mom has never liked me and always favored my sisters, but she's my mom, so I still love her. The other night, I very casually mentioned how me and my boyfriend had been joking around about baby names ever since they both having baby fever. At the moment, I made it very clear that we don't plan on having any until a few years later. She got really upset saying that it'd be a waste for me to have kids and not everyone should have kids, and I'm one of those people. I just sat there quietly while she rambled on about how she doesn't want me to have kids because it'd be a bad idea for both me and the child.
[00:05:01] I ended up just going to my room and talking with my boyfriend after she was done, but I don't know what to think. I always knew that she didn't like me, but the way she was talking about me not having kids almost sounds like she wants my branch of the family to end with me.
[00:05:20] If that even makes sense. I don't know.
[00:05:23] I don't know what advice I'm really asking for. I'm just tired of this op.
[00:05:30] Yeah. I mean, maybe your mom's just jealous. Maybe you're, you know, mom just wants the best for you. Kids are a huge responsibility. I don't know everything that's going on.
[00:05:46] Yeah, go and get some therapy.
[00:05:48] And if you want to have a kid, go have a kid.
[00:05:53] But you make sure you're ready for it.
[00:05:56] Make sure you plan it out.
[00:05:59] Make sure you're financially stable because it makes it a whole lot easier to raise kids if you have the financial means to take care of them because it could end badly and your boyfriend could leave you and you'd be a single mother and it sucks.
[00:06:18] Yeah. And then you really have to fucking, you know, dig in and get shit done. But let's see what the comments say once you're out of your mom's house. I consider therapy to help yourself break free of needing love from that woman, but also learn to use your voice and call her out on her misery and why you are the scapegoat and why she treats you differently. And it may not be an answer you want, but it may help with closure. One thing I learned is I understand loving your mom. She's your only one. But you don't have to like her as a person.
[00:06:51] You don't have to respect her if she doesn't respect you. Also, fortunately, when the time comes and you do have children, you can just tell her it won't be a big deal because you won't be in their lives.
[00:07:05] Okay. Op has been in therapy for other stuff since she was 13.
[00:07:18] So. Yeah, I mean, you're. You're 19. You're an adult.
[00:07:24] You know, you can have kids.
[00:07:30] You know, just. Just do what you want, you know, really.
[00:07:38] But you know that. That's gonna be it for this week.
[00:07:49] Yeah.
[00:07:56] And put your thoughts and prayers out for my friend Heather.
[00:08:03] She just found her husband dead.
[00:08:06] She's my age.
[00:08:09] That sucks.
[00:08:15] Yeah. But be nice if, like, all my friends stopped dying.
[00:08:24] But we'll be back next week with, you know, better.
[00:08:29] Hopefully it'll be Thanksgiving, so we'll have, like, a special, like, Thanksgiving. Probably talk about food or something.
[00:08:41] All right, bye.
